Some things I’ve been thinking on lately. Do you know what your rights are?
Do you know that you have the right to say *no*? And that you don’t have to explain it? *No* is a full sentence.
Do you know you have the right to feel safe? And if you don’t feel safe you can remove yourself from the situation.
It may come as a surprise to some of you, but these rights are not inherently known for a lot of people. We know what we are brought up knowing, or what we learn. I had to learn these things, and what an eye opener it was! These are valuable things to know and sometimes I need to remind myself of them.
Personal Bill of Rights.
1. I have the right to make my own decisions.
2. I have the right to use my own judgment.
3. I have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty.
4. I have the right to feel anger and express it appropriately.
5. I have the right to make mistakes.
6. I have the right to be treated as a capable human being.
7. I have the right to feel and express love and affection.
8. I have the right to have my needs be as important as others’.
9. I have the right to my feelings.
10. I have a right to ask for what I want.
11. I have the right to change my mind.
Relationship Bill of Rights
1. The right to emotional support.
2. The right to be heard by your partner and to be responded to with courtesy.
3. The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real and valid.
4. The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern you.
5. The right to live free from criticism and judgment.
6. The right to live free from accusation and blame.
7. The right to encouragement.
8. The right to live free from emotional and physical threat.
9. The right to be respectfully asked, rather than “ordered”.
10. The right to goodwill from your partner.
11. The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage.